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The Weight of Well-Meaning Words: Finding Your Path in the Noise
- Laura Chapman
- Jan 15
- 7 min read
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Hello, and welcome! I’m Laura, a psychic medium and astrologer, and the owner of Northern Light Lotus. 🌟 My mission is to help you feel seen, heard, and empowered as you navigate life’s twists and turns.
This space is a cozy haven 🕯️✨—a place where we can pause, reflect, and explore the lessons that life sends our way. Whether you’re here for a moment of clarity or a spark of inspiration, my goal is to create content that feels meaningful, supportive, and grounding.
Today, we’re diving into a topic that many of us face but don’t always talk about: those moments when well-intended advice or support feels heavier than helpful. 💭 Sometimes, we just want to vent or share, but the responses we get—even from loved ones—can unintentionally weigh us down.
As someone who wears many hats—psychic medium, friend, family member, and mom—I’ve seen how delicate these dynamics can be. I’m not perfect, but I’ve learned over time how important it is to honor someone’s journey without trying to direct it. Life is a balance of holding space, offering insight, and knowing when to let go.
This post is for those of you who have felt the heaviness of advice, especially from trusted voices like family, teachers, spiritual counselors, or long-time friends. Together, we’ll explore ways to navigate these moments with mindfulness and love, both as the receiver and the giver of support.
Take a deep breath, grab your favorite drink ☕, and settle in. 🕯️ Let’s explore this important topic together—and find ways to lighten the load while staying true to ourselves.
When Venting Turns Heavy
Have you ever opened up to someone—wanting to release your emotions and feel lighter—only to walk away carrying even more weight? Maybe their well-meaning advice didn’t land the way they intended, leaving you feeling unheard, judged, or overwhelmed.
This happens often, especially when the advice comes from someone you deeply trust. Their words, no matter how kind, can feel like extra pressure. Instead of feeling supported, you might start questioning your own decisions or feeling like you should be doing something differently.
Why does this hurt so much? Because advice from someone we trust carries emotional weight. Their intention might be to help or protect us, but their words can unintentionally feel like criticism or doubt. It’s as if they’re saying, “You can’t handle this on your own.”
I want to remind you: your feelings are valid. Venting isn’t about seeking solutions; it’s about finding space to process what’s on your heart. When advice feels heavy instead of healing, it’s okay to take a step back and prioritize your emotional needs.
Free Will, Energy, and Empowerment
As a psychic medium, I’ve come to understand that life’s path isn’t set in stone. While I can see predictive outcomes, read energy, and connect with spirit, I believe free will is the most powerful force we have. Energy is always changeable, and the future isn’t something we passively receive—it’s something we co-create.
This belief shapes how I guide others. My role isn’t to tell people what to do or to predict an unchangeable future. Instead, I focus on helping them work with the energy at hand to shape the outcomes they want.
You have that same power within you. When advice feels overwhelming, remember this: your journey is uniquely yours. You have the ability to honor your intuition, set boundaries, and take steps that align with your heart.
How to Lighten the Weight of Heavy Advice
If you’ve been carrying the weight of someone else’s advice or opinions, here are some ways to protect your energy and refocus on your own path:
1. Pause and Reflect
Take a moment to step back and breathe. Ask yourself:
• Does this advice align with what I need right now?
• Am I feeling pressure to act on their words, or do I still feel connected to my own truth?
2. Acknowledge Their Intentions (and Let Go of the Burden)
Remind yourself that their advice likely came from a place of care, even if it didn’t land well. Gently say:
• “I appreciate your perspective, but I need to handle this my way.”
3. Reaffirm Your Boundaries
If you need to redirect the conversation, it’s okay to be clear about what you need. For example:
• “Right now, I really just need someone to listen.”
• “Thank you for caring, but I’m not looking for solutions right now.”
4. Reclaim Your Energy
Letting go of advice that doesn’t resonate isn’t selfish—it’s self-care. You have the power to choose what to carry and what to release. Trust in your ability to navigate your journey in the way that feels best for you.
5. Shift the Focus
If the conversation lingers, guide it elsewhere:
• “I appreciate your input. How have you been doing?”
Your Soul’s Purpose: A Journey of Learning and Becoming
I believe that every soul has a purpose in this world, a reason for being here. And when you think of all the ups and downs—the triumphs and heartbreaks—they’re not random or meaningless. They’re the experiences that shape and mold you into who you’re meant to be.
It’s important to remember that every choice you make is the right choice for your soul. Whether it leads to what we label as “success” or “failure,” spirit doesn’t see it that way. Spirit sees everything as neutral. There’s no judgment, no condemnation—only support, love, and encouragement to keep growing.
Imagine your life as a soup. Every ingredient—your joys, your mistakes, your lessons, your triumphs—comes together to create the unique flavor of you. Spirit sees the bigger picture, the beautiful masterpiece that’s being created, even when you’re focused on one tiny piece.
The Wisdom of Spirit: Learning Through Experience
My friend in spirit often shares metaphors with me that bring this concept to life. One of my favorites is this: How would you know a stove is hot if you never burned yourself? Mistakes aren’t failures; they’re lessons. They teach us, shape us, and guide us to become the person this world needs—the person you want to become in this lifetime.
It’s the same as a child learning to ride a bike. They fall, fail, scrape their knees, and cry. But they keep trying. That’s what life is about: getting up, learning, and trying again. And this doesn’t stop when we’re adults. Life keeps teaching us, offering us opportunities to grow, even when it’s messy or uncomfortable.
Spirit’s Unwavering Love
What I want you to know is this: Spirit is always rooting for you. They see the bigger picture, but they also see you—the human you, with all your fears, struggles, and triumphs. Spirit doesn’t judge your choices; they support you through them. They want to see you live, learn, and grow because every step you take, every fall you rise from, is part of your soul’s journey.
So, if you’re holding the weight of someone’s advice or feeling the pressure to make the “perfect” choice, remember this: there is no wrong choice. Every path leads you closer to your purpose. Every experience is shaping the unique, brilliant, perfectly imperfect you—the you that this world needs to heal.
Wrapping It All Up
Thank you for spending this time with me today. I hope this post feels like a comforting reminder that you’re never alone in navigating life’s challenges. Whether you’re releasing the weight of heavy advice or embracing the lessons that life brings, remember: you are strong, resilient, and guided by a love far greater than you can imagine.
You are exactly where you’re meant to be. Every step, every choice—whether it feels “right” or “wrong”—is shaping the beautiful, unique soul that this world needs. Spirit sees your heart, your courage, and your willingness to grow, and they are cheering you on every step of the way.
✨ A Tarot Card for Guidance: Temperance ✨
Today’s card is Temperance, a beautiful symbol of balance, patience, and grace. This card invites you to find harmony—not just with others, but within yourself. It reminds us to blend the wisdom we receive from others with our own inner truth, creating a life that feels aligned and authentic.
For advice-givers, Temperance offers a gentle nudge to pause, listen, and trust in the process of the person you’re supporting. For those carrying the weight of advice, it’s a reminder to release what doesn’t resonate and trust your own intuition to guide you forward.
Let this card inspire you to approach your journey with love, compassion, and a little extra patience for yourself and those around you.
A Gentle Note for Advice-Givers
If you’re someone who wants to help a loved one, remember that the greatest gift you can offer is your presence and trust. Before sharing advice, ask yourself:
• Am I holding space, or am I trying to fix?
• Am I trusting them to make their own choices, or am I projecting my fears or hopes onto their path?
When in doubt, simply ask: “Do you want advice, or do you need me to just listen?”This small act of mindfulness can create so much space for connection and understanding.
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Stay Connected
Thank you for sharing your light with me today. Your journey matters, and so does your heart. Please know that no matter where you are or how heavy life feels, you are loved, supported, and never alone.
I’m so grateful to walk alongside you in this space. Let’s keep growing, learning, and shining together.
BIG LOVE AND HUGS,
Laura
Northern Light Lotus ✨
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